How to deal with anger management issues
Have you noticed how almost everywhere you look or go so many people seem to be mad about something? My wife and I have talked about it recently. We were walking in a nice shopping area, enjoying a day off together, and the weather was warm and sunny with a hint of coolness in the air. Sounds great…right? Well, would you believe at almost every turn of the sidewalk we had to sidestep people to keep them from crashing into us? I jokingly commented, “Seems like everybody is dealing with anger management issues, today.” And we both decided to shrug it off and enjoy the day.
But I wondered what was making everybody so mad on such a beautiful day. Of course, I believe I have an answer, and that’s why I’m sharing this with you today. Now, I might not be right. But it’s the only thing that makes sense when you consider the scope of the problem. If those anger management issues had only materialized on that one, isolated day, then I might consider it odd and shake it off. But I see lots of angry people all around me every single day.
People seem to be walking around with chips on their shoulders. Or grudges in their hearts. But I’ll let you in on a little secret about the root cause.
Selfishness is at the heart of almost all anger management issues.
It’s difficult to manage your anger, when all you care about is how wrong the world is treating you. And you can certainly justify your own anger, when obviously no one understands or cares about your personal pain. But it’s almost impossible to reconcile 99% of anger issues with what God says about anger. To quote from Paul’s writing in Ephesians, “be angry and do not sin.” And when Paul wrote that, he was actually quoting from one of King David’s Psalms where it said, “Be angry, and do not sin, Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still.” In other words, don’t go to bed mad.
When you focus on your own problems, your own challenges, your own life, it’s easy to form a tunnel vision where the tunnel always leads to YOU. And you’re not only causing problems for everyone around you, you’re doing yourself harm. Physical, mental, and emotional harm. You might not realize the full negative power of your anger management issues while you’re young and strong. But they’ll show up eventually if not right away.
There are even studies that say anger encourages cancer.
I’m not saying those studies are absolutely true, but it might be more than coincidence that there’s a lot of cancer in the world at the same time there are more angry people than ever. So, what do you think? Are my wife and I just imagining things? Was it just a bad day…and maybe we were hyper sensitive to it that day? Or are there lots of angry people walking around? Are you one of them? If so, wanna know how to deal with it once and for all?
If you’re angry, just don’t sin.
Open up your heart and let God in.
He can help you work it out.
And He’ll show you what it’s all about.
Life is better, when you trust
The One who is Holy, right, and just.
Give it up, and I know…
You’ll be glad where God will help you go.
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