Why is not the question we should be asking.

Why leads to lie.

OK, I admit that sounds harsh, but that’s really not my intention. What I’d like you see is how easy it is to get an answer we don’t want or need when we ask “why?”. When you’re seeking answers to astronomy, or geography, or biology, or any other ology, it’s OK (recommended) to ask why…and why not.

But when we’re dealing with relationships, why ends up being the most counter-productive question I can think of. Most of the time the response is merely something the other party thinks we want to hear. Or they’re put on the defensive and simply reply with a similar why question.

Why doesn’t show the qualities we should aspire to that are found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. And why doesn’t suffer long and isn’t kind. Why IS envious, and it parades itself around demanding to be answered. Why is puffed up and behaves rudely because it feels as though it’s the only question worthy of an answer. And why is provoked easily and seeks its own.

Why generally assumes the worst.

Why isn’t patient, and so it strays far from the peace found in other questions such as Where, Who, What, and When. And why makes us forget there’s a day after today. Why says that even if there is a day after today, it will still need to be answered.

Why is not the question for so many reasons. I’d like to share some of my lyrics from 27 years ago that dwelled on “why”. The guy who wrote the words could not see the guy writing these words. He couldn’t see the answers that have now replaced those questions. He couldn’t see because he stood firmly behind a big, fat, giant…

In Faith, Hope, and Love,